Do you or Don't You?

There has been a question lingering in my mind since about half way through my pregnancy. Ok, well maybe sooner than that. Probably right about the time we found out we were having another girl so 12 weeks. We found out early thanks to genetic testing which is awesome the things they can test for and it be so accurate these days. Anyways, the question is:

Do you shower you second bambino or not? 

Shower meaning a baby shower. At first I thought, no. Especially if it is the same sex. But that got me thinking and asking even MORE questions like, why do it or why not do it?

Some may think that a mother who just had a baby 20 months prior would have everything that they would need. So is that the reason? If there is more time in between babies then it's okay? Question upon question. Are parents really suppose to hold onto things for years piling up their attic because that's what's expected?

Since my first born I have learned A LOT! Like never run out of wine because taking your toddler into a liquor store is never a situation that is fun but you gotta do what you gotta do. Ok, seriously though. For example, a wipes warmer would have made my child's life probably more enjoyable. Also those knee saver pads when your giving your child a bath. Ellie hated bath time and the bath tub. I then discovered this cute little cozy thing called a blooming bath that is basically a big comfy flower you put in the sink. How fun would that be? I believe as mothers each time around we learn what was beneficial and what wasn't or what we wish we had but didn't. 

In my situation if Ellie didn't like it I tossed it or sold it on one of those better than eBay site. The swing which was to big for her when she was first born and couldn't actually use it because of head control until 9 weeks. By then she was already addicted to my arms and it never got used. How was I suppose to know what kind of swing to invest in as a new mom? I had no clue. Several things I borrowed from my amazing sister in law so when finished they got returned. Her basement flooded so some of those things are no longer up for grabs. That's not my fault or anyone else's.

So that brings up the question what do people even register for with their second?

You guessed it. Everything I didn't think would be useful the first time around I actually wish I had for this time around.

My husband goes on to believe that people don't want to buy gifts all the time especially baby shower gifts. But what would the difference be if I had two kids and I invited people to their birthday parties? Am I suppose to switch years of which child gets to

Celebrate? Oh sorry Ellasyn but I can't invite your family and friends this year because its your sisters turn?

Am I reading to much into this?

That's why I am turning to you, my readers, do you or don't you shower each baby with love and gifts or is just your first born the lucky one?

CJ