When I first met Adam, my husband, it was the summer of 2001. We hung out backroading in a single cab truck with another couple. Sounds snug, but we were all a little smaller back in those days. I don't remember this date ever happening so I am going solely off what he has told me. So for all I know he made it up:) 'Back Roading' in our small town was actually considered an acceptable date. Later in life I realized it was not and that I needed to be fed first! I didn't drink at this point in my life, I mean I was only 15. So I was still considered a goodie goodie. It lasted about 6 more months then my goodie goodie ways went down in a ball of flames.
After our first date, I'm not sure what happened. I didn't have a cell phone and that was before texting became cool. We had a land line at my parents with an answering machine before it became old school. I'm not sure if he called or kissed me goodnight, I don't remember. What he remembers was that the next day he saw me out witnessing and that was a deal breaker. Yes, I said WITNESSING, you know about our good Lord and Savior. I do, however, remember doing this and hating every second of it. I'm pretty sure that was the last time I was in a church. No I'm kidding, I've been to church since then........maybe. I vaguely remember seeing him and I'm pretty sure I probably would have waved. I'm guessing Adam ducked his head and acted like he had no idea who I was. And that was it. The End. Ok that's not it at least that was it for Adam and I as far as us becoming a couple. A few days later that same couple we went back roading with took me back roading with another guy who wasn't scared of a little witnessing. I proceeded to date this guy for several years. We all hung out together. It was our little red neck click, I guess you could say. Adam and I proceeded to flirt shamelessly and hang out alone because what else was there to do in a small town. We kissed occasionally and he was madly in love with me and about 3 other girls I went to school with. So you could say he wasn't in love but neither was I we were just having fun.
Anyways, 3 years later in 2004 Adam joined the Navy and left. I don't remember him leaving which makes me sad. I always ask him what if we would have been together that whole time or while he was gone in the Military. He explains that it would have never worked and he was right. I was a senior in high school who had several relationships/break ups under my belt before I found myself in a pretty intense one and not in a good way.
I saw Adam again in 2005 when he was home on leave, for a short minute. He was too cool to stay and hang out at the party I was throwing. A party that lead to all of us girls dancing on my parents coffee table. Where my shirt broke and flashed everyone my ta-ta's. Then proceeded to light a cigarette while yelling out that there would be absolutely no smoking inside. All before I found myself passed out in bed with one of my friends who would later discover her panties in my car. Needless to say it was a night for the books, at least my book. From the age of about 16 to 24 I went through my rebellious, wild stage. Yes, it did last almost 10 years. If you knew me or hung out with me you would agree.
The pretty intense serious relationship I found myself in was a hot mess from the beginning. It was the on again and off again kind that lasted about six years. Im surprised everyday I actually made it out alive. I became an awful person while dating him and did awful things. So if your reading this and you ever found yourself in the crossfire of some pretty vicious behavior, I'm Sorry. It was perfect timing when Adam came back into my life and saved me.
Then in 2010 Adam appeared again. I received a middle of the night text that explained that this was Adam and he wanted to take me on a date.....a REAL date! Needless to say he had had one to many and was at a local watering hole called Spanky's. It's Arkansas what can I say. We exchanged a few texts and that was it. The next morning I texted him bright and early to pay him back for texting me so late. I need my rest or I was already passed out from my daily intake of alcohol. Even that next morning no longer in his drunken haze he still wanted a real date. This is hilarious to me even to this day. A real date. What is a fake date? I let him know I was currently seeing someone...kind of. Of course, any guy you tell that your 'kind of' seeing someone only hears 'give me a reason to not kind of see someone'.
I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about the exchange I had with Adam and she invited me over. Adam decided to drop by too and that was it. A set up
I would say. We all sat around reminiscing and chatting about the gold ole' days and what we were up too these days. Lets see I still hadn't graduated college, lived with my parents, and was in a relationship that was going no where. He lived outside of D.C.. He was not longer in the Navy and was working as an air traffic controller. I don't really remember him telling me any of this but I'm sure it was true. I do remember him asking me if I had drawn on my hot pink dove tattoo. Which always pisses me off when people say, "Is that real?" No!! I sit around and draw on myself all day! Of course it's real you idiot! We hung out and it was great but I didn't really expect much to come of it until....he kissed me. When we walked out to our cars I was rambling about something and his asked if he could kiss me. Very gentlemen like I thought and so cute so I couldn't say no. It was a great kiss. I had kissed Adam several times before in the past on many different occasions but this was amazing. I do remember that! My friend was peeking through the windows, little sneak, so as soon as I got in my car she texted me, 'what was that?...big smiley face. She then informs me he has a girlfriend. A GIRLFRIEND!!!! That asshole! I know your thinking, well you had a boyfriend. And yes I did but cheating on each other was something that happened often. So my conscience wasn't phased by it. Don't get me wrong I was faithful for a very long time but someone can only cheat on you so much until you just decide to join in on the fun. If you can't beat them, you might as well join them. Now, after I say that I want to clarify that I never actually "joined" them, just started being scandalous myself. I wasn't that outraged at Adam really. I did feel bad but I also felt that he was kind of mine first.
He left that next day to head back home and we exchanged a few texts but what else could honestly come of it. I remember clear as day him texting me saying that the timing was off and maybe down the road we could be together. I wanted to be like, 'look buddy it's no big deal I'm fine.' I wasn't I wanted him to dump his girl and be with ME! A week later he did just that. A month after that I flew out there to see him. And then three months later I moved out there. I haven't been happier. He puts up with my crap on a daily bases and I love him for it. I've never been easy to deal with but he liked the challenge.
A little after our year anniversary we found out we were pregnant on July 7, 2011. This was the scariest day ever because we weren't married or even engaged. We talked about our future all the time but nothing was ever set in stone diamond stone that is. He proposed a week later and we married shortly after. We said our vows at The Great Falls in Virginia. In the exact same spot he asked me to be his girlfriend the first time I came to visit him. We got married September 1, 2011 and gave birth to our life on March 14, 2012., Ellasyn Bellamy Jones. Adam and I had a wedding, my dream wedding at my parents on September 29, 2012. I haven't been happier and while I wish we could have been together all those years we weren't and that's okay. We had to grow up apart so we could grow old together. I am so in love with him and will fall more in love with him everyday. And that is how we became the Jones'
They Lived Happily Ever After.
Today I am a wife, mother, and Mrs. Jones.
Keeping chasing those Fireflies!
CJ
In 2005 at THE Party
My family. The Jones' Adam, myself, and Ellasyn at a pumpkin patch.
Our 2nd Wedding.
Our 1st wedding.
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