The V Word

Well it's almost that day of the year. The one day people loathe and just basically skip right over. Your calendar may look something like this:

February 12
February 13
February 15
February 16...

You guessed it Valentines Day! You either love it or hate it or you love to hate it. No matter how many times I've gotten burned, which has been a lot, I still genuinely enjoy this holiday. I feel, that because I was born on a holiday I was programmed at birth to love every single holiday that comes around. But that also means that I expect the person I'm with to know this and to support my expectations. See my mother has set the bar so high it's hard for the guy to reach it. But don't blame her I, mean it can still be reached if someone tried hard enough. My mom still gets me Valentines Day presents, Easter baskets, four leaf clovers and so on. Well at least until now, my daughter gets everything and I get nothing and I'm not happy about it:)

So back to valentines Day. Many women claim to not celebrate because they just don't want to. To those women stop lying to your inner self you know you want chocolate and a stuffed animal that screams I love you! Then my favorite are those women who post on Facebook how their husbands treat them to flowers all year round, which makes him a REAL man so Valentine's Day is just not that important. Oh please! Get Over Yourself. Valentine's day is not a competition but the social media world has made it into one. My news feed will be flooded with I married the most amazing man he got me these flowers....which are hideous by the way. You never see a status that says my 'dumbass husband forgot', because no one actually wants to admit that most of the time that's the way it goes. Then if your single you usually have something cynical to say or you post what your parents got you at age 40 because you still haven't found the one. While I am all for parents getting their daughters stuff if there is no boyfriend or  husband but don't post it on the Internet. It's like a big arrow that says, "Look at me I'm still single and need someone to love me." Then there is a whole other group of people who refuse to celebrate it because they always get let down. It never works out how they want it or it's just not as romantic as it should of been. I am almost ready to join this group and give up hope that it will ever be like........the movies. Yes, there I said it I want a Nicholas Sparks movie to be my real life. Whats wrong with that?

My husband is still paying for Valentine's Day last year.  I was about the size of a whale, pregnant with my precious little girl, who was leaving no room for mommy to breathe but plenty of room to finish off the plate of sugar cookies with a red heart stamped on them. So my expectations were that I should get a present from him and from our little bambino. A card from him and one from her even though obviously he would have to pick it out and sign it. Did I get any of the things I just listed? NO!! I didn't get a damn thing. NOT ONE THING. And trust me he's still paying for it. OK, maybe I got some flowers but I really can't remember all I know is it wasn't special enough for me to, well remember. If your reading this you may be thinking what a B, right?! I know it sounds horrible and I can't remember what we got him either. But I had pregnancy brain and lets be honest guys could care less about Valentines Day. The way I see it a guy should look at the years calender and start thinking of things in advance. He, my husband, claims I am hard to shop for but I know for a fact that I am constantly saying oh how I would love this or love that or isn't that cute. Why is he not keeping track? Or writing these things down? Every man should be born with one of those tiny spiral note pads to use throughout life. To keep track of important things like how I said those white Hunter rain boots were to die for 3 years ago and I have yet to receive them.

Do I need a present to know how my husband feels about me?

Yes. Actions speak louder than words. And if you think this is superficial or shallow because I need a present on Valentines day then you should just go look in a mirror. Because if Christmas rolled around and you didn't get anything you would be pretty pissed. Or if you told your children they weren't going to get the hundreds of crappy toys this Christmas because you were going to donate the money to people who have real problems and need FOOD and not another video game, they would shit a brick. Needless to say your kids would probably think you didn't love them because you didn't show by buying them presents. On every other holiday you get a gift then Valentines Day should be no different. Just Saying!!

So this valentines day I made sure I was guaranteed a gift. I made a list, sent pictures, and did everything in my power to insure a present would be bought. Its Tuesday and he still hasn't gotten anything but I'm sure hes not going to wait until the day of because that would just be insane. What's Ellasyn getting me you ask? I don't know but I'm sure Adam has it covered.....right baby?!

Happy (early) Valentines Day!!

Keep Chasing Those Fireflies!

CJ